for all you SAHM's...

Heard on the radio today a stay-at-home is worth 120k-130k/year, taking into account all they do.


Considering there are days I literally feel like this picture looks....

I can live with that.

Birth: Worth All the Hype??

A few weeks ago I was thinking about birth. I'm around 6 months pregnant, and the thought is starting to enter my mind. What kind of birth do I want? Another hospital birth? Do I want to try a homebirth this time? Induced? Do I want something different?

Ha, as if any of us have a choice at the end of the day (to some degree). So I asked my husband.

Me: "Do you think I should do all-natural this time?"
Justin: "Why would you want that. You said Elijah's birth was perfect."
Me: "I know, it was. I wouldn't change anything. But I don't know, more pain might build my character."
Justin: (shakes head and laughs) "That's why you want to go natural? The fact that you are even asking that question for that reason, shows you are not one of those people that needs to put yourself through that. Besides. Life has enough pain. Especially the way you choose to do things"

Thanks.

Okay so fine. I am one of those few people who loved their birth story. But is how you birth a baby really important? I mean, is it really all that important to love your birth story? Does it really matter how you birth a baby? That is my question.

I don't think it does so much, Big scheme. My argument is birth is the only decision that *doesn't* affect the baby, it just affects you. Not that our happiness isn't important, --(or our character!)--but really, there are a MILLION other choices you will make as a mother that actually affect the baby---how to discipline, establishing self-esteem, creating a love for God and others. I think maybe ONE person has ever asked me in two years *how* I gave birth. Because...no one cares! It doesn't matter. What matters is what did you do with your baby...cloth diapers, organic baby food, crying out method, attachment parenting, discipline choices (or lack thereof)..that's the stuff moms want to know because that's the stuff that more affects your child. (not that any of those are black&white either or deal breakers!) If you are going to spend hours of pre-bedtime reading on something, I dunno, birth just doesn't seem worth it to me.

Because any way you slice it...the baby will be born. And I will argue forever that chemicals you put into your body for a few hours (after baby has been living in your body for ten MONTHS receiving what you eat)...aren't really what we should be worrying about. I know babies whose mother's went on pitocin and guess what their babies are at Harvard now. Same with epidiurals. C-section babies. Homebirth babies. Premie babies. And I know homebirth moms who deeply regretted their decision. Same with C-section. Same with epidurals.

Also, I need to say, for some, the way they birth is really a spiritual experience for the mom. I know moms who feel like the way they birth a baby is an obedience issue, God has asked them to birth a certain way...in which cases I think obedience trumps all. But, for me, I did not feel God telling me a way to give birth. Here's my story in a nutshell.

Four days past due date (isn't it super fun when all your friends and family text you/call you daily to ask what's happening??--I'll let you know people, believe you me, no one wants to birth this baby more than me--end of side note). Finally at 4am I'm positive I'm in labor. Drive to hospital, I'm 6 cm. We hang out. The pain gets worse and worse. I have made it a *point* to be super-nice to the nurse (always pays off...nurses run the show, folks). I tell her my entire extended family (including great-grandparents) are on their way to witness the birth and I would like an epidural, please. Nurse says, at 8cm it's not really protocol, but she likes us okay we'll try.

Okay just have to inteject--my biggest fear in birth was not the pain with labor, it was the pain in tearing. Baby was 21 1/4inches people, and 4oz under 9lbs...I was skeered. And I know, I know, epidural doesn't neccessarily help with the tearing pain, you can tell me that a million times, but in my crazy little mind, I was 9cm and wanted that epidural for that one reason and there was no talking me out. I don't care if the hard part was over. I. Don't. Care.

Cue huge procession, trumpets sounding, ladies dancing, elephants, the whole deal we are excited.  Lady with the big needle enters. Doesn't hurt a bit. 30 minutes later, nothing changes, except I've slowed down a bit. Apparently the meds went in upside down and my arms were going numb. Awesome.

Well, 30 minutes after that, baby was born, got to see family, everyone came it, it was perfect. Because at the end of the day...I had my baby.

I do have friends that hate their birth story. And, I could really be discontent with my next one. But, at the end of the day, those trials shape us into better women, better moms if we use them to strengthen our relationships with God. Heard in bsf last week, "Trials are tests to reveal our understanding". And as we all know, they make us stronger people.

So, what for number 2? I am not making any real plans. I chose a doctor I trust completely, and am hoping for the same story. A C-section only scares me in that it is unknown territory. I don't think it matters to me outside of that. But again, I trust my doctor completely and trust God more than that. Any way you cut it, I will be okay with the end product if it produces a healthy baby. And then the real sanctification begins!

Happy Easter!

Still decorating? I needed a refresher on ideas. Even though it's only been a year, I was clueless on what to do, so I had to read some ideas again. What I really need to do is take pictures of where all our decor GOES, so that I just put it out where it belongs. (I had to label all the boxes of Christmas...but I still forget where things look the cutest...decorator's amnesia after just a year!--each and every year!)

new things I've added this year to our decor traditions:

salt-water taffy from Big Top Candy Shop on Soco

Elijah's Easter basket...$1 from goodwill...and it couldn't be more perfect for him

Target plastic bowls for candy display! All around the house. $1.50 each and can use them year-round for so many purposes!

still lovin the Easter tree from last year.


Still on my to-do list:

 (found on pinterest, no link but pretty self-explanatory)

 (picture from pinterest, no link, but I'm assuming just add a little dye!)

Chocolate-covered peep bouquet! 

I am excited for Easter this year! We kicked it off with our neighborhood Easter egg hunt

Madness

I love my neighborhood

(still celebrating :) post on why I'm excited for all boys to come )

Baby #2's Gender Revealed!

The big day finally came!--the day we find out baby#2's gender!

I made pink and blue bran muffins for breakfast that morning, and asked him to choose if we were having a little boy, or a little girl!

So far, the tally was: 23 voted for girl

7 voted for boy (counting Elijah)

Carrying like a boy or girl? 

(What complicated voters was the fact that my pregnancy has been totally different than the last pregnancy; Less nausea (though still bad), different cravings, less weight gain (so far), stomach pains&worse skin.

This day was so important for us. Adding a boy to the family, would be a totally different dynamic than if we added a girl. And what a difference it would make to Elijah, too! We were too excited for the way our lives were about to change.

The ultrasound technician of course asked us what we predicted. We both said, and then she asked if Elijah had made a prediction. I told her, as a matter of fact yes, he guessed 'boy'. She smiled and said that 9/10 little ones guess correctly! She hadn't looked yet, but I thought that was funny that she would think so.

So as of now, baby is 11.5 ounces (5 ounces from a full pound!) and probably a little bigger than a bannana. Everything as of now is normal (praise God) and baby is growing on schedule. Baby is breech though, and so was Elijah so we need to pray for that to change.

We are so excited for our little bundle of joy! We had a lot of fun telling family. The reason we didn't tell everyone right away was because we knew family was coming into town the next weekend and we wanted to tell them in a special way. For Mimi's (grandma's) birthday, we took her out to eat and had the waiter bring her dessert on a plate with the gender written in chocolate! Then for her gift (a bible from the grandchildren) we had it personalized from each of the grandkids, including the new baby with their new name! She was surprised and it was a fun time :)

We called relatives the next day via facetime/skype, and revealed to each of them either by Elijah saying the baby's name, or biting into a cupcake with the appropriate color of icing and having him show them his tongue.

We wanted to make the surprise special for baby#2. We hope they know how perfect they are and how excited we are to be having them--just the way God made them--in our lives. Baby #2 will be such a blessing :)